Making "It"

Life is what happens to us when we are busy making other plans
— John Lennon

An Australian Hospice Nurse, whose job it was to take care of patients during the last 12 weeks of their life, made notes about some answers to questions she asked them. Almost all of these patients, gave the same answers:

"I wish i didn't work so hard" and " I wish i was more true to myself and stop trying to compare myself to others".

If you were in the last 12 weeks of your life, what will your regrets be? All our days on earth are numbered. Whether you are Christian or Muslim, believer or non believer, there is a beginning and an end to your life.

We are surrounded by a society of busyness. The busier we are, the more things we get done.

Most of us are fiercely defensive of our busyness. We have processes to streamline, goals to accomplish, promotions to earn, debt to eliminate, exercise regimes to master, dreams to chase—and hopefully along the way, people to help and inspire. Otherwise, we are not going to make it.

But what is it? Are you chasing the right it? Are you spending your numbered days with the right people, in the right frame of mind and with the right intentions?

We multitask, even when it means not truly being present in an activity we enjoy, and maybe even feel guilty for blocks of unplanned time in our schedules. We look for productivity hacks and apps, join forums to discuss ways to get more things done; and when we do aim to simplify our lives, even that undertaking involves a lengthy to-do list. We are scared we might not make it.

Sometimes we need to sit down, cut the busyness and take stock of our lives.

Moms run around the clock with their kids from this activity to the next, clogging up their whole day, only to get back home totally exhausted.

Dads spend the days at the office, making deadlines, hitting targets, running to this meeting and attending to that crisis. Also just to come home at night, exhausted, because we are trying to make it

I'm not saying that we shouldn't pursue our goals with determination and motivation and I'm also not suggesting that we should avoid work but we should find a balance whereby when we reflect on our lives one day, that we can say " I have no regrets"

When we wrap our days around things we have to do we leave very little time for the things we want to do. Happiness requires a balance.

We need time with the people we love. We need space to do the things we enjoy without any agenda other than having fun. We need opportunities to disconnect our minds and experience the world with childlike curiosity. All of this requires us to whittle away at our busyness.

Are you living the life you won't regret or are you so caught up in the busyness of life that it passes you by? 

What is your it?

Make sure your it is something you won't regret in the future.




Barry Oberholzer

Born in Houston, Texas, a former professional rugby player and current CrossFit and Ironman athlete, Barry  is the founder of TerrorMate app and is a counter-terrorism and intelligence expert. Formerly Barry served as a confidential informant for Department of Homeland Security, Joint Terrorism Task Force, Belgium Customs Intelligence and HM Revenue & Customs Intelligence in the United Kingdom. 

One of his most impactful successes was in his identification of Iranian sanction busting syndicates who smuggled US manufactured aircraft and parts to Iran which led to the arrests of several prominent international businessmen. He also had numerous successes in major illicit cigarette seizures in Europe.