Sex, Money & Power - The Christian Way

Ask a man how he defines success in life, and chances are his answer will include variations on three themes: money, sex, and power. If a man has a job, a woman, and a skill that makes him stand out from the crowd, people consider him successful. It's probably the three greatest temptations of our lives and referred to by some as the unholy trinity or the counterfeit gods.

 "No issues touch us more profoundly or universally,' writes Richard Foster. 'No topics cause more controversy. No human realities have greater power to bless or curse."

No three things have been more sought after.

We live in a world obsessed with finding it, passionate to enjoy it, and desperate to maintain it. Money, Sex and Power are unrivalled in their power to captivate our attention, demand our worship, and drive us to hide or to despair.

We tend to worry about drugs, drinking, and pornography. But it's not the bad and nasty things that are our biggest problems. Sex, work, and money are great goods. They are intrinsic to our being made in God's image. If God is second place in your life and one of them is first, you're screwed, pardon the pun.

These things are candidates for first place because they are so addictive. Hey, i'm not saying lets zip up our pants or cross our legs, give away all our money and let's move out to the desert and pray and read our Bibles.

If we're honest with ourselves honest, some of the defining features of our identity has been our desire to put something else – popularity, money, influence, sex, success – in place of God.

Money provides us with resources and allows us to live better.

Money can’t buy you love and a whole lot of other things. All the research shows no increase in happiness with increased income above the middle class level. The richest people I know are often pursued by others for money and spend too much time actually thinking and worrying about their money. We need to enjoy our life whether we are driving a Kia or a Ferrari and we shouldn't forget what really matters. 

Sex is not a dirty word. Sex is an expression of love and commitment. TV images of swinging bachelors and bachelorettes might say otherwise, but being in a solid relationship actually tends to be good for your sex life. I think that we have been told that God and sex don’t go together too many times which results in feelings of guilt to even talk about the subject. Its all too hush-hush.

If you have been blessed enough to have discovered something that brings satisfaction, pleasure, closeness, and climax, in the realm of your exclusive relationship, then I don't see where we are getting our feelings of guilt. It's something special, that needs to be shared, between two people, in an exclusive relationship.

When it comes to your own power, you have to learn how to project it.  The quest is simply discovering how to make your dominant side shine, for the Kingdom and not for the world. This power has always been with you, even if you’ve never realized it. 

Naturally, people like to make a difference, we like to influence and persuade. When we have a position of power we get to make a difference in a bigger way. We have a bigger sandbox to play in and who doesn't like to have the biggest sandbox? The key is to use this power effectively. Not to abuse it but to use it to serve others, for the greater Good.

Ask a Christian man how he defines success in life, and he should say, “By repentance and faith in the gospel of Jesus Christ, which is the kingdom of God.”

As a Kingdom man, he will spend money generously, cultivate purity of heart sexually, and use his power in service to others. The great need of the present hour — in which we see so many men abusing money, sex, and power — is for Christian men to be Kingdom men and show the world a better way.


Barry Oberholzer

Born in Houston, Texas, a former professional rugby player and current CrossFit and Ironman athlete, Barry  is the founder of TerrorMate app and is a counter-terrorism and intelligence expert. Formerly Barry served as a confidential informant for Department of Homeland Security, Joint Terrorism Task Force, Belgium Customs Intelligence and HM Revenue & Customs Intelligence in the United Kingdom. 

One of his most impactful successes was in his identification of Iranian sanction busting syndicates who smuggled US manufactured aircraft and parts to Iran which led to the arrests of several prominent international businessmen. He also had numerous successes in major illicit cigarette seizures in Europe.